Finding your calm isn't always easy but you owe it to your kids to emotionally balance your parenting. As a child and family therapist I have found that parents who invest in calm parenting invest in their children's mental, emotional, social and physical health. The class that you are purchasing today offers parents the tools to change.
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Laura Doerflinger, MS, LMHC, has been working with parents for over 15 years to help them find their calm in parenting. This audio-class, Emotionally Balanced Parenting, is a culmination of her years working on the problem of emotional reactivity in parenting. In this class, she shares with parents effective ways to manage emotions and change the automatic responses from one's brain and body. Come join the parenting movement, find your calm, and become the best parent you can be!
Parenting is one of the most rewarding experiences in ones lifetime but it is also emotionally challenging. Feelings arise out of our own childhood experience as well as the difficult work of day to day living and raising children.
Make the investment today and start a new emotional pattern in your family that could last several lifetimes! Studies show us how our approach to our children effect the quality of their lives. The intelligence, social adjustment, physical and mental health of our children depend in a large part on our parenting. Even with good parenting skills, many parents fail their children because they are emotionally reactive.
Parenting Tips - "Emotionally Balanced Parenting"
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#1 Reverse Action
When we feel anger, we tend to want to attack. When we feel fear, we tend to want to run. Although there are circumstances in which these behaviors are rational, generally we do not need to react with such actions. If you have a reaction that you want to change, try the power of reverse action. Instead of attacking when angry, try sitting down and breathing calmly.
#2 Pattern Change
The brain is a complex organ! Over a lifetime, you create patterns in your brain that become ingrained. In order to change them, you have to be aware of your patterns. Once you are aware, you have a greater chance to change those patterns.
#3 Stay Present
What’s going to happen tomorrow? What’s going to happen at work next week? Will my child get into a good college? Although we must plan for our future, it’s important not to future trip! And not only do we future trip but we lament over the past. As Edna, in the movie The Incredibles, says, “I never look back, darling! It distracts from the now".
#4 Stop!
We move at the speed of light! Our thoughts, feelings and behaviors are so automatic that It’s difficult to get a handle on them. The stop technique is a great tool which can put a halt to negatives. So next time you’re in the middle of thinking negatively, tell yourself “Stop!” out loud and get control of your thinking. Do this again and again and eventually you'll truly stop!
#5 Speak Up!
It's okay to tell others your feeling but here's the key - own your feelings. The "I feel" statement is more than counselor speak! It keeps YOU in control. If we allow others to determine our feelings then we hand over the reigns to our emotional lives. So say "I feel hurt when you use a loud voice." That way you determine the hurt and thus can change it.
#6 Gain Perspective
We worry or are bothered by so many situations in our lives that we have no control over. We get our nose bent out of joint or obsess over non-survival issues. In order to gain perspective, we must weigh the intensity of our feelings over the power we have in a given situation. This evaluation can help us prioritize and eliminate our concerns.
#7 Breathe
Take a deep breath! Yes - it's true. Breathing gives oxygen to the brain which in turn tells the body that everything is okay. Deep, slow breathing mimics the body's resting state. As you control your breathing when you're uptight you, in fact, override the body's physical reaction to stress therefore tricking it into a state of calm.
#8 Take Responsibility
Just because you feel a certain way doesn't mean you have the right to behave a certain way. This concept is difficult for children to learn because they don't yet understand the concept of mind over matter. Our feelings do not justify behaviors. A parent does not have the right to mistreat child. By understanding this concept you might choose a less invasive behavior next time you feel angry.
#9 Parent Counseling
Managing your emotions isn't easy especially if you've learned some negative patterns early on. Sometimes we need individual help. Reaching out to a parenting professional is an excellent way to receive help based on your unique set of circumstances. Counselors who work with children often times are also parenting experts. Find one in your community today.
#10 Audiobooks
One of the reasons I started writing and doing audio-classes is because the best way to change is to be constantly reminded of your goal. If you have a parenting book by your bedside, an audio-class in your car and on your MP3 player, and a top 10 lists stuck to your refrigerator then change is close at hand.
e it to your kids to emotionally balance your parenting. As a child and family therapist I have found that parents who invest in calm parenting invest in their children's mental, emotional, social and physical health. The class that you are purchasing today offers parents the tools to change. 